Today, one of my friends was telling me about how, “none of the guys she is interested in, (one in particular) are ever interested in commitment.” Alright. Understandable: Boys only think with the brain behind their Fly.

Okay, nothing new. She then tells me that, because of this, she went out to the clubs and bars to meet people– but found no one worthy of a relationship. Here are some things that I have to say about trying to discover Boyfriend-Material:

FIRST: DO NOT GO LOOKING FOR A BOYFRIEND AT A NIGHTCLUB. I didn’t think that this was a novel concept– however, sometimes you just can’t be sure. Think of it this way:

Looking for a boyfriend at a nightclub is like looking for a Louis Vuitton handbag at Walmart: in the unlikely scenario that you find one, it’s already attached to someone else’s arm.

As a rough generalization, boys at nightclubs are probably not looking for innocent friendship, or any real companionship; it’s probably safe to say that single boys at night clubs are looking for some “Pirate’s Treasure” that starts with a “B” and ends with “ooty”. Which is fine– if that’s what you’re looking for as well.

Another place to (probably) NOT look for a boyfriend, is on MYSPACE. I mean, especially nowadays, you never know if the guy you think is interested, isn’t really a registered sex-offender in 38 states, or an undercover Dateline reporter…. Whichever is worse…

And the last place to NOT look for Boyfriend-Material, is a woman’s shoe store, make-up counter, or salon. (Duh.) Chances are, most of them are gay, while the small, straight percentage will be far too critical of your own beauty choices. (i.e. “that eye shadow is too dark for your skin tone,” “those shoes are from last season…, “your hair needs to be deep-conditioned.”) Just the idea of a potential boyfriend being able identify my fashion flaws is an automatic OFF.

Rachel-Approved places to find potential Boyfriend Material:

-IN CLASS: What we often forget sometimes, is that we already have at least something in common with the people who sit next to us in class. We all go to school. (Duh.) At least then, you don’t have to concern yourself with asking where, or if, they go to school– you already know.

-Through your friends: At least someone with credibility can vouch for him.

- Elementary, middle, and high school classmates are all decent candidates, because not only did you know them when they were most awkward, you probably grew up with similar backgrounds as well. And they are not complete strangers, since you might have already placed four-square or kick-ball with them during recess…

I would think of more, but it is SO LATE already. I might come back and edit this. If you have any suggestions, BY ALL MEANS, email me, or comment! I would love to add more to this.

Big day tomorrow! I’ll post pictures when I get them! :).

LOVE,

Rachel